Are you making lifetime decisions with temporary people? And of course, I mean relationships.
I mean think about it, we meet someone, the beginning is almost always beautiful, it’s that honeymoon/butterfly phase. Everything is perfect or damn near it. We are just googly-eyed, (yes, I said googly-eyed) head over heels messes.
The first six months are usually those beautiful ones that lock us in and we start making silly lifetime decisions with people we may not realize are temporary people.
We even feel it or see it and we either turn a blind eye or ignore the gut feeling aka our intuition telling us to pump our brakes. Sometimes we have those big red flags we ignore or maybe have the subtle feeling of apprehension and we second guess our intuition trying to stop us from making these mistakes.
One key is: If you feel like something isn’t right. Believe it.
If your gut feeling is telling you to close the book on it. It’s most likely for a reason. (Remember, your intuition is your soul speaking to you and your soul has infinite wisdom)
However, you have to learn the difference between your past trauma & hurt creating doubt and what is your intuition
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A simple way to gain a better understanding is to sit with yourself quietly, ask yourself the following questions
- Have I truly healed from my past relationships and what hurt me?
- Am I bringing that pain and possible untrusting feeling or trauma to this relationship?
- Has my current partner done or said anything that would create doubt/ mistrust?
Pin it!
Let me make something really clear.
If you do not heal from your past, you will destroy every relationship you enter. And you will repeat a cycle of hurt, pain and trauma.
What are the lifetime and temporary decisions we might make?
They may look something like this:
Lifetime
- Major purchase – house, car, property
- Relocation
- Procreating
- Getting married
- Life insurance policy
- Beneficiary
- Permanent tattoo
- Joint accounts
Temporary
- Going on vacation
- Adopting a pet
- Introducing them to family
- Dating
- Having a drawer or closet space
- Exchanging keys
Some people are meant to be a reason, season, or lifetime ( we have all heard that saying) sometimes however we will make life decisions with temporary people. But how do we know which of the two we are involved in?
When you are making these serious, sometimes life-changing decisions, are you skeptical? Do you feel apprehensive? That apprehension is coming across as self-doubt but it’s your red flag, your warming and your intuition asking you to take a moment or just plain ol’ trying to say heeeey stop that’s not the right decision.
Your apprehension tells you-you’re not in alignment with it.
When you feel really good about it, you are excited and positive about the decision. That is how you know you’re aligned with it. What you’re aligned with feels right. When it’s real, you feel it on a deeper level than just the physical. It’s knowing you can see yourself with this person through the thick of it and together grow through what you go through. It feels like a spiritual partnership.
Your happiness starts with you!
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